Reading through Dale Carnegie's seminal self-improvement text How to Win Friends and Influence People reminded me of a very real fact of life: when you deny your wrongness, shit only gets worse for you.
"If we know we are going to be rebuked anyhow, isn't it far better to beat the other person to it and do it ourselves?"
I'ma use a modern-day example 'cause I watched 8 Mile recently and the parallel was irresistible to me.
When Eminem goes to battle Papa Doc at the end of the movie, he lays out everything the other dude could use against him before he gets his turn. When Papa Doc gets the mic, he's ruined and Eminem ends up winning because Doc has nothing further to say bad about him.
So when you know somebody's gonna fault you for something, Carnegie urges us to "admit it quickly and empathically", and the other party will generally feel for you, and from there you will have the opportunity to work it out and move forward easily rather than denying your wrongness and essentially digging yourself further into a hole.
Stay humble, own your bads (is that a word?), and we can work it out!
Love you lots,