Passive aggression gets a bad wrap. And it should. No one likes an underhanded comment intending to toss blame, "I would have taken out the trash if so and so hadn't blocked the doorway with their stupid stack of amazon boxes," or something.
When we're struggling with people disrespecting our methods it's hard to know how to address the issue without a) hurting someone's feelings by coming on too strong or b) approaching the situation too lightly and having our requests invalidated. Dale Carnegie has an answer for scenarios like this: if you feel you need to criticize, here's how to "not be hated for it... call attention to people's mistakes indirectly."
This could mean that you set an example of how you would like something to be done, and then congratulate the person on doing it so well. Try using the word "and" in stead of "but." (It was very gracious of you to take out the garbage last week, and it has inspired me to be even better with taking out the recycling.) We can call attention to details which need improvement without casting blame or doubt on anyone.
We all live in our own little worlds. We can make daily life steady like a river, we just need to help each other to go with the flow in stead of work against the current.