We need each other to reach any sort of success. It all just keeps coming back to this with me lately. There are so many of us on this planet, and so often we avoid strangers. Especially if they seem different from us.
"It is well to respect the leader. Learn from him. Observe him. Study him. But don't worship him. Believe you can surpass. Believe you can go beyond. Those who harbor the second-best attitude are invariably second-best doers." (The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Shwartz, Ph.D.)
But I learned to worship people from an early age. I learned to idolize others through the boy bands (Bryan Litrell from Backstreet Boys) or by watching movies (Harrison Ford as Indiana Jones: wanted to be him). Mostly I idolized love stories: someone thinking highly enough of you to give up everything to be with you. That was how I saw it. Luckily I've reconstructed my idea of healthy relationships a little bit, although I still consider myself a romantic.
But now where am I? I idolize stars like Thom Yorke and Bob Dylan. They're put on display to entertain. Really they are just folks who specialized in something and they must have picked something they really enjoyed because both of them have been doing it for decades now. And now they're leaders in their tribes. They lead people and people trust them.
So with studying success, I start to learn what sorts of questions I can ask to get to where they are. What sorts of trials did they go through? Did they ever want to give up? Did they know they wanted to be successful or did they just believe they would?
I'll take any leader though. Show me someone who has a tribe of people supporting them and working for them, and I'll pick his or her brain. Are there ever times in your life when you consider reaching out to someone who you envision as important, but you convince yourself it's not worth the trouble? What would happen if you did it?