The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt (you can purchase it here)
Today's book nugget is for the hater in YOU. It comes from The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt.
Haidt states: "Good and evil do not exist outside of our beliefs about them."
No matter how kindly we try to approach it, it seems the topic of morals can easily turn into a big fuss. In The Happiness Hypothesis, Jonathan Haidt, an Associate Professor of Psychology at The University of Virginia, presents a wealth of tips on what it takes to create and grow our happiness. In one poignant chapter, entitled "The Faults of Others", Haidt talks about how our views of ourselves as right--and also of others as wrong--can lead us into a life of sorrow.
In his research, Haidt has found that the a large amount of people's unhappiness comes from their unwillingness to understand and accept mindsets that are in contrast with their own. Also, Haidt suggests, it is in our nature to have a "rose colored mirror" in which we often fail to see our own faults, but we are able and ready to find the faults in others.
We human beings have a tricky over-approval of what we believe, think, and do, yet maintain a strict level of judgement for the opinions and actions of others. This, Haidt claims, is harmful to our happiness. In order to be happy, we must therefore try our best not to judge, stay humble about our own beliefs, and keep ourselves from being provoked or offended by the voices of others.
I think we can do it, and I think we'll all be happier for it!